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Dating Tips and Advice - Guys Don't Need Them to Pick Up Women

Author: Amir Rimer

It seems to me that we are seeking success with women because we believe that if we are successful with women we will experience some sort of great joy and enduring pleasure.

What I said may surprise you.

Moreover, it may also surprise you that success with women is not what you REALLY want.

You only want to be in this state because you believe that this state will serve as a bridge between your current less fulfilling state (emptiness, loneliness, despair, etc...) to a different more pleasurable state (satisfaction, fulfillment, and contentment).

Yet, for some reason the state of being successful with women never seems to materialize. The only place where it usually does is in your head.

So, the inevitable question is: why?

Why are you doing everything that you can to achieve success with women yet fail and why there are some guys who treat women badly, yet achieve all the success they want?

Now the simple answer that most dating gurus give to men is that women are attracted to men that are confident and are repulsed by nice men who radiate neediness and lack of self esteem.

This is very true. This is what is actually going on, but how does this help the guys who lack confidence reach the state of success that the confident guys have.

If you have read any of my articles you probably know by now that I don't believe in giving people positive methods to achieve any physiological endeavors in life.

On the contrary, I believe that we have tried all the positive methods to become successful with women for years and we still find ourselves exactly where we started. Very depressed and confused.

So instead of doing what we have always done and expect different results, let's do things differently in order to experience new results.

Let's forget following a positive system, advice, tip, or guru and concentrate our powers on: Negation of false beliefs.

I tried to explain negation of false beliefs in many ways in the past and in this article I will try to explain it through a fun yet informative allegory.

Imagine yourself living on an island.

The island has two sides to it which are separated by a huge river.

The two sides of the island, X and Y, are occupied with people, yet the people from side X cannot visit the people from side Y (and vice versa) because there isn't any bridge or boat which can help them to cross the huge river.

The "X" side of the island is the side where you want to be (a side populated by confident guys who are extraordinary successful with women).

And the "Y" side is where you currently are (a side populated by "nice" guys who aren't successful with women).

You want to move from where you are (Y) to where you think you should be (X).

The problem is, apart from crossing the huge river, is that people from side Y of the island only accept newcomers who ALREADY have a confident mentality like they do.

So when you ask yourself or other people questions like:

- How can I become successful with women? -

- Can you give me 5 ways / tips / strategies,suggestions to get hot girls?

- Do you know how I can get my ex-girlfriend back?

- Why do women always dump me and then go out with jerks that treat them badly?

The answers you get for your questions, as you see, are not important at all.

What is important is that you currently have the kind of mentality which will not give you access to side "X" of the island.

This may be the most important thing I can tell you, don't forget it.

I will repeat it again in different words, because it is so important!

The questions that you ask are much more important than the answers you get.

The "nice" people who occupy side "Y" of the island are always asking these kind of unproductive questions, which show lack of confidence and are always trying to figure out why they are stuck on the "Y" side of the island.

As I said before, you can only be a part of the community of side "X" of the island if you are acting like its inhabitants from the very beginning.

After you become the kind of person who is thinking, speaking, and acting like the people from side "X", you will not have to do anything at all to cross the huge river. You will suddenly find yourself in side "X".

So the next time you have a burring question which you just can't find answer for, stop for a second and ask yourself the following question very seriously:

From which side of the island am I asking this question?

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About the Author

Amir Rimer gives the complete story on how to attract women, using the most groundbreaking, innovative psychological techniques in the world in his new eBook The Dating Doctrine, which has now become available.
To learn more about how to become a women magnet, download the FREE 7 day mini course he has especially prepared for you at the following link:
http://www.yougetgirl.com

How to Avoid Being a Victim of the Liar

Author: Jim DeSantis

Although honesty is generally taught as the best policy, I would propose that it is the only policy to follow in 99% of cases. The other 1% could be called "white lies.” How are you to know the difference, that is, when someone is telling the whole truth as opposed to a white lie? Here are some tips that will help you spot a liar.

There was an old Hollywood movie starring Charles Bronson as a buffalo hunter and Will Sampson as an Indian Chief. They are in a cave together, hunting the same killer white buffalo, when they engage in a conversation about truth. Bronson, known to the Indians as "the shooter" because he is a skilled hunter, has his version of the truth and the Chief has his. The Chief asks - "Tell me Shooter, what is the true truth?" I ask you the same question. For me, the true truth is the whole truth, no shading. What is it for you?

As we go about our interaction with each other, the white lie is employed more than any other form of communication with those closest to us. We are more apt to shade the truth in order to avoid hurt feelings or, when we know a person really well, we tell a white lie because we know they really don't want the true truth. They have their version of the true truth and that's the version they want to hear.

When we deal with strangers, telling a lie is easy because we likely will never see them again but what about that stranger we may see again? You need to decide if what you are lying about is worth what you will gain as opposed to the potential consequences if your lie is discovered. It is a personal decision. You need to be realistic with yourself. It is easy to become a compulsive liar and ruin your life. Under what circumstances are you willing to risk damaging relationships, reputation, and future opportunities. Ask yourself.  Do the benefits of telling the lie outweigh the risks?

For example: A teen boy tells his parents he's going to the movies with a friend but he's really going to a concert with his girlfriend. Logically, the parents are going to ask what the movie was about and if he enjoyed it. Now, beforehand, the teen could Google a summary of what was in the movie; along with the climax so he can be ready for the questions. Such a young man may not consider the consequences if he is caught in the lie. He does not realize that his parents will be emotionally hurt by his lie and will take a long time before ever trusting him again. His lie has destroyed the parent-child relationship for a long time to come.

Telemarketing has taught us that it's relatively easy to lie to someone over the phone because the sense of personal connection is very small. You can't see them; they can't see you. As a result, you are less likely to feel guilty and, therefore, give visual clues that you may be deviating from your normal behavior. If you were closer to the person physically, you would have a greater personal connection. Consequently, you would be more likely to reveal, in some way, that you are engaging in deceptive behavior.

The same reasoning applies to being close to a person psychologically. If you try to lie to your girlfriend or boyfriend, there are numerous psychological pressures. For example, you'll think about what happens if you get caught, feel guilty about lying to someone you care about  and it will be more difficult to focus on mimicking your normal behavior. This phenomenon is often called "liars’ remorse," and it's usually what people are talking about when they say a liar "wants to get caught." Those closest to us know when we are lying and when we are shading the truth a bit.

Most strangers will not have a clue if you are an accomplished liar. It takes years, by the way, to develop a liar's mentality. An amateur liar will not look you right in the eye when lying. They may touch their head with their hand, or hold their palms up as they spin the lie. These are both giveaways. An accomplished liar does the opposite. They look you in the eye, their hands at their side. An amateur liar will use the strongest adjectives and a voice level that are above normal pitch and speed. A friend of mine says - "I can tell when someone's lying. They talk faster than I can listen."

Most professionals employ specific tactics to catch liars. The cops will make small talk with you to establish what your "normal" behaviors are. When they get down to the serious subject matter, they look for cracks in that normal behavior. Polygraph machines work the same way. There are mental and physical drives that can be detected by skilled interviewers, as well as machines.

There are many more subliminal messages people send when lying. Do some research and learn what they are and how to avoid them.

Jim DeSantis

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About the Author

Jim DeSantis is a retired investigative journalist who is now a full time blogger. Grab Jim's Free Report "How To Spot A Liar" (click here). No email is required. Visit Jim's blog about the Workplace (click here) for more free information.

Getting Back With Your Ex - Opening Moves

Author: Anthony Malibu

In trying to get back together with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, most people move too fast. They concentrate solely on the end result: putting their ex back in their arms again. Instead of seeing the path that will lead them back into their ex's heart, they only see the goal. And in reaching for this goal, they often fall flat.

If you've already been trying to win back an ex, you probably know your fair share of failures. Getting someone to both want and need you again after they've dumped you can be difficult. Maybe your ex hasn't showed the slightest signs of interest in you again, or maybe they've started to move on without you. But no matter what situation you're currently involved in, know that getting back with your ex is always possible... if you're willing to learn exactly what to do, and when to do it.

Opening Moves To Get Your Ex Back

Very often the same question gets asked: "What's my opening move for getting my ex to take me back?" The main problem here lies with that one little word, "take". In all honesty, you shouldn't be trying to get your ex to take you back. You should be working on getting her to want you back.

When your exgirlfriend or exboyfriend emotionally wants and needs you again, your relationship is going to come back together automatically. When you create a scenario in which your ex is attracted back to you, the rest just takes care of itself. Too often men and women are concentrating on chasing after their ex's, wondering what things they can do that will somehow turn them around. But getting your ex to change his or her mind isn't necessarily about what you can do for them, but about what you can do for yourself that will make them see you in a different light. Getting back with your ex won't happen until there's suddenly a need in that person's life for you... and this isn't going to happen if all you're doing is chasing them with cards, flowers, love notes, and mix CD's.

Things You Can Do To Turn Your Ex Around Fast

While no breakup can be repaired overnight, there are definitely things you can do to accelerate the process of getting back together with the one you love. This step by step list of actions you should be taking starts immediately after the breakup, and continues on to the point where your ex begins changing the very way they see you again. By modifying your ex's perception of who you are, he or she will come running back to you... instead of you asking that person to "take" you back.

Some of the better options you have available after a break up is to work inwardly on yourself for a while. Not only does this take your mind off the fact that you're alone, but it also helps work out some of the frustration and hopelessness many people feel after being rejected. Exercise is a great way of working through losing a boyfriend or girlfriend. Join a gym, take some classes, meet new people and get active again. If you can look and feel better than you did when you were dating, the next time your ex sees you they're going to be pleasantly surprised by the new you.

Beyond the physical, there are mental aspects of your personality that can be improved also. Becoming a more happy, positive person can greatly increase the level of attraction between you and members of the opposite sex. Getting back with your ex requires that he or she wants you again, and this is a great way of developing a personality that drives people in.

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/getting-back-with-your-ex-opening-moves-1538707.html

About the Author
There are 8 Individual Steps that will Get Back Your Ex Girlfriend... or in the case of an ex boyfriend, be sure to check out the step by step process at Winning your Boyfriend Back. Instead of wanting to call my ex, you should be mapping out a blueprint that will get your ex to call you!

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