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5 WARNING SIGNS YOU’LL NEVER MEET SOMEONE
Author: Tonja Weimer
Do you worry that you will never meet someone? Have you tried to date, but nothing ever works out? There are warning signs that tell you why this happens. Do you know what the signs are?
WARNING SIGN #1 Disastrous Dates
The first warning sign that you won’t meet someone is when you have a date that you think is a disaster and you focus on the “failure” of it. You may keep trying to date, but each person seems worse than the last one. You consider this a sure sign that you will be alone the rest of your life, that you are not attractive enough to get the one you want, and, most of all, the one you want doesn’t even exist!
WHAT YOU CAN DO: Shift your thinking from failure to success. You haven’t “lost” anything except some expectations. Look for what you learned. You have gained insight, clarity, and knowledge. You can use these lessons on the path to your True Love.
CONCLUSION: Your single life is not a contest—it’s an adventure. Stop looking at it like it is one impossible event after another. As long as you think of it as a win-lose, you will not feel successful, or brave enough to take the necessary steps to meet someone. You are allowing your creative mind to dip into the negative zone, turning a disappointing date into an act of rejection. Get a grip. Don’t talk yourself into feeling rejected. No one rejects you but your own mean inner critic.
WARNING SIGN #2: Interpreting Every Date As A Rejection
WHAT TO DO: It takes a victim and a victimizer, carefully orchestrating their misery, to be successful in creating the game of rejection. If you don’t play the game, you can’t be rejected. You are not rejected if someone shares that you two don’t seem compatible. Say, “Thank you,” let go of whatever you were expecting, and move on. How do you keep your dance card full so one less name on it will barely be missed? Get out often, get out more, and get out and be friendly.
CONCLUSION: If you make a plan for your social life, you don’t have to wait for love to “just happen.” Follow the plan, and plan for volume, so you won’t fall into the “I’ve been rejected” pit.
WARNING SIGN #3: Jealousy Consumes You When Someone Else Falls In Love
WHAT TO DO: When you feel jealous of anyone for ANYTHING, look to see what you have not done for you. Jealousy occurs when we feel deprived, or helpless, or like we are not enough. If you are jealous of another person, ask yourself:
- What have I done lately to meet someone? Do I get out whenever possible, tell lots of people I would like to meet someone, and stay friendly, reaching out to others? Be honest. How much have you really done?
- What can I do to feel better about myself? Need a counselor, exercise program, or financial adviser?
- What can I do today to empower myself? Have I de-cluttered recently, eliminated what I have been putting up with, or found something to do that I LOVE?
CONCLUSION: Jealousy happens when you are feeling empty and unfulfilled. No one can make you jealous if your life is brimming with good things and if you know you have the power to create everything you want.
WARNING SIGN #4: Looking For Someone To Make You Happy
WHAT TO DO: Look to see where you can make yourself happy. You may think all your fears will melt and your problems will be handled when The Perfect One enters your life. But if you have this state of mind, when you find The One and continue not to be happy, you may think it is the other person’s fault. True—the other person may be a jerk or jerkette—but your unhappiness started with you. Pull your life together, do things that make you proud, and then you will attract someone like you.
CONCLUSION: Happiness is not an elusive balloon—one minute you have a hold of it and the next, it slips from your grasp. You don’t have to go chasing after it. It’s in you. No one can give it to you, and no one can take it away. You give it to yourself.
WARNING SIGN #5: Projection Onto The Other Person
WHAT TO DO: This is a common mistake singles make. Many people who live alone want to meet someone so much, when they finally get a date, they read all kinds of values and character traits into the person that just aren’t there. Eventually, they wind up being angry because he or she didn’t live up to their expectations.
CONCLUSION: Be careful when meeting your future dates that you don’t “make it up” they are so perfect, you miss the red flags of danger.
These are the five warning signs that can become your new guide to find romance. Give them a try. You deserve to find your love.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/5-warning-signs-youll-never-meet-someone-1147981.html
About the Author
About Tonja Weimer:
· Columnist: Weekly syndicated singles and dating columnist (over four million readers in the U.S. and Canada)
· Media: Coverage on TV, including CNN’s ShowBiz Today; rave reviews in USA Today, Entertainment Weekly, Publisher’s Weekly
· Author: NBC/USA TV Network, selected author for articles on dating and singles for website
· Articles: In House Beautiful, New Woman, GRAND, and other national magazines
· Coach: Master Certified Singles Relationship Coach; Associate Certified Life Coach; International Coach Federation; Relationship Coaching Institute; Institute for Life Coach Training
· Keynote Speaker: Regional, National and International conferences in U.S., India and Europe
· Academic: BA; MA in Human Development; U.S. Dept of Mental Health full fellowship
· Published Author: 7 Books(Fingerplays for Children; Creative Movement for Children, etc) winning over 25 awards.
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What Do Women Want in Relationships?
Author: Richard C
If you really want to get the most out of your relationship with your wife, lover, girlfriend and even your mother, then it is best to know a little about what women want in relationships. The top of the list of what women want in relationships is certainly a man that is romantic, and most men are just not too expert at this. In fact when a woman asks you to be romantic, you may cringe at the word because you may not really understand what her definition of this is. In simple terms being romantic is giving women the attention they desire, and for you to make them feel special. She wants to know that you are the one and only in your life, so to speak. What women want in relationships is for you to show them that they are the sexiest, mot beautiful, wonderful, and perfect person of your dreams. If you can master this you will have the most powerful relationship you can dream of...
So how do I be Mr. Romantic?
There are simple things that mean a lot to a woman and these will also score you brownie points for being romantic for her as well. Simple things in a relationship start being overlooked especially when you have been together for a very long time. Here are a few simple things that you can do which mean a lot to her romantically
Ask her how her day was and listen to the answer.
Slip little notes in her handbag, glove box or where she can see them with sweet reminders of how much you love her.
When she takes an active interest in your projects or activities tell her that she is the best in the world.
When she cooks for you tell her how much it means to her and compliment her on the dish
Show her you care by commenting on her appearance and often tell her how pretty she looks.
Ask her if she wants to learn about things that you do; like operate the VCR, put a plug on the toaster, paint, gardening or anything she takes an interest in learning. (Do Not Criticize her efforts no matter how disastrous (EVER)
Be patient with her when she makes a mistake and praise her when she achieves a success!
These are some of the things that women want in relationships and actually just the tip of the ice berg. You can also be romantic by giving flowers occasionally, taking her for special outings and dinners, and spending time with her parents especially your (future?) mother in law…
Women in Relationships want Strength and character
Women want to know that you are always there for them and this means being a pillar of strength when they are sad. They love a man that is masculine, yet also has a feminine side to them. (You must have seen this angle in the Mel Gibson ‘What Woman Want’ Movie). More points of what women want in relationships is showing that you are not afraid to be yourself when you are with her, showing your feelings of love in public ( Which they know makes other women envious), and always being truthful and honest with them.
Knowledge is power when it comes to understanding what women want in relationships and this means communication and listening. If you really love your girl find out what her favorite foods are, her pastimes, hobbies, about her parents, her favorite movies, books, colors and hangouts. When you know all this you are more than half way there to knowing the true secrets of what women want in relationships.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/what-do-women-want-in-relationships-650407.html
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Learn ways to enjoy your relationship to the maximum by using advice, guides and experience from Richard. Use tips from this experienced author with confidence to help you make the right choices when things go wrong in relationships. Women In Romance & Relationships
