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Healing Emotional Abuse - Signs, Symptoms & Help For Relationship Problems
Author: Kathi A Calahan
It’s the cycle of abuse. Abusers always have a history of childhood abuse. They don’t mean to pass it on and they would do better if they knew how. Whether you are the abuse victim or perpetrator, you must make a decision to stop the cycle of dysfunction now. Yes, the spider web of abuse is huge, but it can be healed.
Signs of Emotional Abuse:
• Unrelenting criticism
• Yelling
• Intimidation
• Sulking
• Manipulation
• Refusal to be pleased, no matter what you do or say
• Neglect
• Abandonment
• Denies you outside friends or hobbies
• Insists on going everywhere with you
• Negates your opinion
• Won’t support your success
It’s easy to see if you have been affected by emotional abuse, because the effect of abuse warps personalities.
Symptoms You Have Been Emotionally Abused:
• You are afraid to state your opinion for fear of retaliation.
• You’ve slowly stopped doing things you like.
• If you miss a phone call, text message or email, you hurry to respond, hoping to avoid a fight.
• You have been ignored or rejected as a “punishment” for your behavior.
• You agree to things just to avoid a fight.
• You report where you are, who you are with and what you are doing.
• You’ve never received an apology, even when you’ve been right.
• You take the blame & responsibility for other people’s unhappiness or problems.
• You suffer from low self esteem.
• Believe jealousy is proof of love.
Many people think emotional abuse only happens in love relationships, like boyfriend to girlfriend or husband to wife. But domestic abuse is not the only hot bed of pain. Emotional abuse can be seen in child abuse, elder abuse, between friends, family members, co-workers, neighbors and just about any combination of two or more people.
Solutions to Emotional Abuse:
• If you are involved in an emotionally abusive relationship of any kind, get out now. And don’t go back until professional help is sought and completed by both of you. Sharon is a woman whose health was severely compromised as a result of working in a department where her co-workers shunned her, made fun of her, lied about her and gossiped about her lack of success and brains. Several times she did report abuse, but her immediate supervisor, as well as the human resources department, did nothing to help her. No paycheck in the world is worth this kind of treatment. Sharon was so beaten down from years of this abuse that she finally gave up and quit her job, before she ended up in the hospital. So, get away from the abuse immediately.
• Stop the abuse by calling for help. The National Domestic Abuse Hotline is open 24 hours a day. 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Let the cycle of abuse stop now and RUN for help. Not another day of abuse needs to be a part of your life.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/advice-articles/healing-emotional-abuse-signs-symptoms-help-for-relationship-problems-1242754.html
About the Author
Professional Psychic & Certified Behavioral Therapist, Kathi Calahan, helps lovers heal their relationship by identifying the underlying problem and providing workable solutions, even if they're thinking of throwing in the towel. Her free newsletter American Love Psychic - How to Grow Old Together is available at www.AmericanLovePsychic.com
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Top 20 Relationship Deal Breakers
Author: Nicholas Aretakis
If you’re a single woman looking to marry and start a family, here’s a fact that may startle you: The average amount time from single status to motherhood is approximately five to seven years. For a woman now 30, that means waiting until her late 30s or early 40s to have a child. A second one might not be an option.
Now let’s contrast this with the less urgent situation of the man. He many theoretically like the idea of being married one day, but for him the issue of when that day comes isn’t as urgent. Men have the luxury of being more self-centered, putting work and friends ahead of finding a missus.
Here’s my big message: Don’t waste precious time dating the wrong guy. Don’t ignore signs of what I call relationship deal breakers. These are qualities, habits, and attributes you just know you can’t life with. Deal breakers vary form woman to woman. You may not mind a man who smokes, for example, but your best friend could never tolerate it.
Here are the top 20 deal breakers. Consider adding your own to this list.
1. No Prime Time: He’s always busy on Friday and Saturday nights.
2. Nothing in Common: He’s a sports enthusiast, you live for the ballet, and there’s no middle ground.
3. Family Matters: He always has major family obligations or faces significant issues in his family, such as interpersonal strife, mental illness, disease, a disability, or a disorder.
4. Religious Differences: Can you face the possibility of compromising or converting? Can you agree on how to raise children, if desired?
5. Politics: You fundamentally disagree on candidates and ideology.
6. Obsessions: He’s a workaholic, an incessant trainer, a fanatical enthusiast, and these obsessions take up all his time and mental energy.
7. Bad Habits: He is a slave to cigarettes, drinks excessively, smokes pot regularly, or abuses harder street drugs or prescription medication.
8. History of Bad Habits: A man “in recovery” could relapse.
9. Loner: He has no close friends from home, work, college, high school, team sports, or even the bar scene.
10. Jealous: If he doesn’t trust you, particularly around other men, it often means that he doesn’t trust himself.
11. Rude: He’s impolite to strangers, co-workers, friends, family, or people in the service industry.
12. Poor Hygiene: He has bad breath, body odor, or other forms of poor hygiene.
13. Unhealthy: He doesn’t take care of himself and is often ill or tired.
14. Unemployed or Underemployed: He doesn’t work very often, very hard, or at all.
15. Idle Rich: He’s a trust fund baby who seems to have no responsibilities and lacks a value system.
16. Values: He has moral standards you can’t abide, such his views on abortion or whether a woman should leave the workforce to raise children.
17. Lost: He doesn’t know his purpose or have any direction.
18. Boring: Your mind wanders when it’s his turn to speak.
19. Aesthetically Unpleasing: You find him physically unattractive.
20. Hothead: He has a short fuse and possibly a “chip on his shoulder.”
Know your deal breakers and check for them as early as possible in the guy who’s caught your interest. If your gut tells you this is Mr. Wrong, tell him as nicely as possible to take a hike. It’s never too early to ditch Mr. Wrong.
Resource:
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/1641431/ditcing_mr_wrong_how_to_end_a_bad_relationship_and_find_mr_ri/
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Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/top-20-relationship-deal-breakers-579187.html
About the Author
Nicholas Aretakis is a life coach and writer tackling challenging subjects. He is the author of Ditching Mr. Wrong: How to End a Bad Relationship and Find Mr. Right. He splits his time between Saratoga Springs, New York, and Scottsdale, Arizona. Mr. Aretakis interviewed hundreds of women, committed to helping women become more dating savvy.
www.ditchingmrwrong.com
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